The grumble thread

[ComaChameleon]

Sometimes it can help to just scream it out what's [Removed] you off....

I'll start...

As my "company" (aid relief, but behaving like a company) changed so many things.... Our teamleader was thrown out, is a normal co-worker now... The shiftplans are "planed" centrally now (I can't even say it's planned, that would imply it has a structure, but it's just like throwing [Removed] on a paper). The shiftplan is.... just no. We work our asses off, have plushours galore and the other watch has minushours. So they have freetime enough and we thought about putting containers on the watch to live there, because we don't know why we pay rent for our flats - we're hardly ever there!... And the best shifts are always given to the temporary workers who already have a very good job, so they get the extra amount on money instead of us....

Next week I can finally take my annual leave from LAST year (by law you have to take it by 31th march by exception... I got it excepted even longer. I'm so ready for a holiday!

[ComaChameleon]

I'm *bleep*. I'm really *bleep*.

My grandparents (dad's parents) think they can make decisions for me (and brother). We're 29 and 27 yo. Now that pur parents both are dead, they turn psycho. Patroulizing every day to see when I open the window blinds, ringing and calling to wake me up etc. 

It's kind of stalking. I don't want dispute... But it seems like it has to get started. 

[Cleoriff]

Sorry to hear that @ComaChameleon 

I know we are taught to respect our grandparents (and parents) but they need to realise you and your brother are of age to look after yourselves.

You do have to remember though that they both are still grieving. They have lost a son and now a daughter in law. 

Probably best to have a gentle word without  falling out. You all need each other after all?

[ComaChameleon]

@Cleoriff 

Problem is, dad always showed them if it's enough. My mum and I always gave them contra and they needed it. 

Brother never did. They told him to jump, he asked how high.. And now they think they can control me. i always tried not to start arguments, but they overstepped a line - more then once now. 

And I'm really close to explode. 

They think just because they're old they are right. 

[Glory1]

Old age doesn't always come with knowledge or respect. Respect is a two-way deal. You must give respect in order to receive it whatever your age. With age doesn't come automatic respect.

Like @Cleoriff says @ComaChameleon you have to make your grandparents understand that you and your brother are adults and no longer need supervision. Politely but firmly. If that doesn't work tell them to f*** off. Harsh but sometimes you have to be harsh to get your point across

[ComaChameleon]

@Glory1 

I was so shocked, I wasn't able to tell them something. Gosh. the longer I think about that, the more I get *bleep*...

[Glory1]

@ComaChameleon you need to start as you mean to go on. You're an adult and have been for some time. Your mum didn't check up on you, so why should your grandparents? You have to make them understand that.

[ComaChameleon]

@Glory1 

That's right. It's just so hard to do so short after being back home.

[ComaChameleon]

Last wednesday I got a rupture of a musclefibre at work. So now I'm crippling around and have to stay home for some weeks. Can't walk, can't really help to do the household.... I'm p****ed and bored... 

[Cleoriff]

Sorry to hear that @ComaChameleon . It must be so painful. Hope you feel better soon

[Anonymous]

Thinking of you @ComaChameleon & wishing you better soonest